Best leaders are…

According to Harvard Business Review, best leaders are insatiable learners. Don’t believe me? Click here

And to know where the best learning happens, look at your deepest relationships. If you stop learning there, you automatically stop learning about yourself. To know more, just scroll up and read the earlier blog post.

Stay focused. Keep learning.

4 reasons why you must develop Mentoring Culture in your organization

As an OD specialist & facilitator of Mentor Development Initiatives in large and medium organizations like Tieto, Amdocs and many other global organizations, am often faced with the question on relevance of developing a Mentoring Culture in global organizations.

Having led more than hundred Leadership & Mentoring labs for close to a thousand Sr. Executives & Leaders in last 8 years, i have found some compelling reasons as to why organizations must pay attention to developing a healthy mentoring culture. Here are 4 of them. Hope you find these useful and helps you create new conversations or possibilities of creating mentoring culture in your organization.

1. Been there done that, now what

Its been more than 8 years that i have been coaching and mentoring Sr. executives. One common thread that i often sense in these assignments is a sense of reaching a certain plateau. These executives with more than 12 to 15 years of hands on experience have reached a stage in their career, where they are at a comfortable position in their personal as well as work lives. The initial drive of achievement that comes along with youth has slowly been tempered by years of direct work experience. Money is no longer a big driver nor reaching the next designation. Rather many of them are at top of the pyramid and they know that position wise organization can not offer any further growth opportunities. This is exactly where they yearn for a challenge.

I believe mentoring someone younger and less experienced than them offers them that sense of challenge. It also appeals to their need of contributing their knowledge and experience in a meaningful way. Many of the mentors that i have mentored, state that the satisfaction of directly making a difference to someones life gives them a rare opportunity to participate in someones transformation. They truely love it, enjoy it and value it. They also begin to develop a sense of meaning to their work lives. In absence of fulfillment of these needs many Sr. leaders fall prey to either boredom, midlife crisis or rigid behaviors at work place.

When the organization enables them with the opportunity to mentor the next line of leadership, it is like a new lease of life for many of these Sr. leaders who in private sulk about meaninglessness attached to their high paying jobs. And i feel hence its a good idea to create these opportunities for them.

2. Knowledge Sharing & Leadership Wisdom sharing are two different ball games

Mentoring is one of the most ancient way of sharing and transferring wisdom used by even early human societies. Training, Learning & Development initiatives are all useful but have their own limitations. In a mentor – mentee relationship, what gets shared is not just information but hard earned wisdom that is born out of direct experience of Sr. Leaders of your organization.

If your organization, does not build a framework for institutionalizing the mentoring culture, you are loosing out on years of accumulated Leadership wisdom which will never be written in any book or will be given an opportunity to be showcased and used. I have found that often one single tip that you receive from an experienced mentor can actually help you boost your career or help during critical decision making period in mentees life.

3. It is no longer only business, it is about generosity and creating a culture of respect and sharing

In one of our mentoring labs that i was leading for Tieto, at the conclusion of the year long Mentoring Program, most of the participants shared that this initiative made them feel something unique. They said we sense that organization really cares not only for our career growth but it helped us meet an unmet need. That of a sharing and caring connection with another human being committed to their growth. Something which is becoming rare in todays world. It not only made them feel grateful for the opportunity, but due to the long term nature of the program, it gave them a different sense of belonging to the organization.

If you can create these opportunities and right training and education for the experienced mentors in his or her organization, you are appealing to one of the highest human values of sharing and caring in your employees. This not only inspires the mentors but also inspires the mentees to grow and one day move into a role of an experienced leader very seamlessly. Hence i feel  is not only relevant but in todays times of “fast moving executive culture” (executives moving from one company to other faster) but very important too.

4. The mentees of today, tend to avoid the blunders made by earlier leaders

Another crucial benefit of the long term Mentor-Mentee relationship is the way it impacts critical business decision making process. In many successful mentoring relationships, the mentor often shares about the rash decisions they took during their careers when they were at helm of affairs. That sharing often influences the mentees and inspires them to look at long term business impact of their decisions. This wisdom is rare and is rarely shared openly by Sr. Leaders.

At Red Wisdom, when we create these engagement programs, we inspire and empower Sr. Leaders to share their blunders and wrong decisions with mentees. And when they do, they not only are helping the new leaders but are directly contributing to long term sustainability of the organizational decision making process based on sound values.

Hope you found this article to be useful, do share your comments and observations generously. Looking forward to write more on this platform. Wish you a lovely day ahead.

Raj Mali

Co -Founder & Lead Facilitator at


Leaders one day…

All leaders one day,

sit back and quietly watch what have they created,

what have they left behind

In that they have to face,

they have to confront the truth of the way they led

Then words of the wise

sing true,

i could have been kinder, could have loved more, could have been a better father and a mother…

From the mistakes of those who were led astray

only few see the sun

Only few see the truth

Only few lead with honor and dignity.

But when they lead

World sees them.

As one.

Ones who lead with shining quiet power,

who talk less and do more,

who feel and think as one.

Am here to speak to those,

to listen to those

to engage with those.

Who choose to lead

with the way of balance.

The ultimate.

To the rest,

i entertain n teach few old tricks of the trade.

The wisdom we speak of

is the wisdom that runs through our blood

since ages.

The wisdom remains the same.

Only forms change.

Only forms change.

Wax-On Wax-Off.

My two Trans Linguistics based Ebooks are here…Enjoy

As a Transformation Linguistics researcher and practitioner, wanted to create small script books for those who practice Transformational Linguistic in their practice.

Book 1, Be Love is a short 30 page long ebook. Woven with simple inspirational linguistic patterns. And Book 2, Pointers to NowHere is for regular meditators and seekers on the path of Truth, Awakening and Samyakdnyan (wisdom of balance as espoused in Zen teachings). Though both of the books are light hearted and have carefully tried to avoid saying too much.

For those who seek the essence behind words, i recommend to read a little before meditation and also use post meditation for reflection.

Those who enjoy Haikus, would enjoy these subtle twists…

For those who are new to Transformational Linguistics or Multilayered writing, a simple tip is if you read with awareness, each reading will allow you to explore a deeper meaning and insight. Years of work in most concise, format.

Also those who walk the shamanic path, you can use both as “Reflective Reading” during Journey states or also for my Trance Music DJ friends, you can read out to your crowd, when your crowd has entered “the zone”. 🙂

Here are these, my small offering to humanity.

While reading observe, what are you most focused on…finding and correcting spelling mistakes (?)

or learning and applying.

If you just read and contemplate, you may get lovely insights, but if you read and reread n apply, you might find the doorway to finding yourself, your way…your own way.

Do play & experiment with both the books.

Answer to many questions asked in book 1 are either answered or given hints about in book 2 and vice versa.

Be love Amazon book cover

pointers to NowHere

7 Life Leadership Lessons from Paulo Coelhos Alchemist

clarity diamond1.) Whoever you are, or whatever is it that you do, when you really want something, it’s because that desire originated in the soul of the universe. When you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it.

2.) In the long run, what people think about us becomes more important than our own destinies.

3.) Don’t think what you have left behind. Everything is written on the soul of the world and there it will stay forever. If what one finds is of pure matter, it will never spoil. And one can always come back. If what you had found was only a moment of light, like the explosion of a star, you would find nothing on your return.”

4.) At a certain point in our lives, we lose control of what’s happening to us, and our lives become controlled by fate. That’s the world’s greatest lie.

5.) It’s the simple things in life that are the most extraordinary.

6.) The darkest hour of midnight comes just before dawn.

 7.) When you possess great treasures within you, and you try to tell others of them, seldom are you believed.

 So when you find the treasure. Just keep quiet. Shhhhh…said my teacher. For best things are given and received in silence 😉

Wish you a great life, and may you choose to put the above ones in action. I put them to use, just for fun. To my surprise, I benefitted immensely and hence sharing.

Summarization credit goes to

5 Clarity Questions for you Mr./Miss/Mrs. Leader, Artist, Healer, Preacher, Facilitator, Writer, Mystic, Fellow walker.

clarity diamondNo matter who you are, if you are seeking more clarity about what next in life. Or just want to sit back and reflect on what next for you, these could be handy and useful. If you want, you can Start Now. 🙂

Answer these 5 questions to start with

1. Who are you?

2. What do you love doing?

3. Who do you do it for?

4. What do those people want and need?

5. How do these people change as a result of you doing that?

Questions courtesy @AdamLeipzig

Answers to be written in comments section, same sequence n same number.

Rule number 1. In Masti ki paathshaala, 🙂

Just answer questions and then DO IT. 

It is that simple. For god’s and my sake, dont complicate it.

Be happy. Be Mindful. Be love. Be mast. But above all, the secret of all leaders.

Be who you are and shine the brightest with all that you have.

Get used for good cause. Find work that fulfills you. Design life to have family and friends around you. You can do it. Trust me. All you need to do is simply begin.

An old sage Lao Tzu shared 2500 years ago, The journey of thousand miles, begins with a simple step. Would you like to take that step now? Just Do n C. n then just B n C.